Young, Hot, and Broke

Sure I might be stealing this title or at least some of it from other blogs but the truth remains..We are young, hot, and broke.  I bought shoes at Payless recently and felt bad that I spend $41.  N liked them so that's swell.  I wanted to slap the sales kid upside the head when he told me the price. Hello? Pay  less!  I have bills!!!
The good news is ..I have come to terms with my hotness being at Home Depot as long as he can comes to terms with his hotness being at Home Goods five minutes later.  I think this is what people call compromise..hey at least my store is a discount store!

Wow October

Since it's October, we should only be thinking in fall colors, hence this print.  I hope all are doing well.  Well since it's been a few weeks since my last entry, let me say sorry and I will try my best to keep all 3 of you entertained. 
Not going to lie to you guys, I am stressed.  I have wife stress. Yes, I will coin that phrase!!! I am going to school for social work and want to give good advice but get stuck when it's so close to home. AT HOME.  I think that when your job gets in your way, your spouse should be able to support your emotions any which way they can.  I feel as though I am lacking in doing that for N.  I wish there were back pocket skills (ah, a phrase us in the field know) that help when bosses just can't seem to get it right.  We all have our turns in the gutter at work when we feel that we should go play lotto and hope it all turns out fine.  We all also have our turns when that idea does NOT turn into anything.  I called the best friend and literally asked "how are you married, like how, when times are tough..do you do it?" She said they simply say to each other that people suck and everyone knows it.  This was ok advice for the time but  wish that I had my own little henchman to go knock some sense into those that are making N's life hard.  That was easier than therapy right?

The Past Six Months

It's kind of hard easy to say that six months have passed almost (this sunday) since the walk down the aisle.  I would say that from friends, co-workers, basically anyone willing to give their opinion, the first year of marriage is the hardest. To some point I can agree with them because even when we were "just" living together, I was Ali and he was N. Now it's smushed together like a Cold Stone ice cream.  Don't get me wrong for one second, I love him more than yesterday and I hope this pattern continues because I don't like statistics class and I don't want to become one.  Now, I'm not going to sit here and be the kind of person (twitter freaks beware) and list all the good and all the bad that has gone on in six months.  I would just like to say that it's amazing that now I am on deck to look for dresses for another friend's wedding and my days of planning are in the past. Don't miss that at all...

Untitled Feelings

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I started out the day realizing that I needed to put more effort into a lot of things.  I needed to put more effort into my marriage, my work, my school (albeit it just started), and my general attitude.  By chance or by shear luck, I was browsing Lifamilies.com and  one of the people that belong to the site showed this video of a man giving a beautiful happy birthday message to his wife.  Of course, I was sitting there with a cup of coffee in my hand half sobbing because it was so touching.  The man has cancer and she has stood by him, taken care of the kids, etc.  This is what most people do. This is what you should do.  Watching some people say thank you when they could be bitter and sad just makes my day.  I started off an idea in my head that was going to be about saving money yadda yadda yadda.  I wanted to get a new tattoo over my old one, I wanted a brand new fall wardrobe.  I saw this video and all I wanted to do was tell N that I love him.  So..like many people say..don't take a damn thing for granted...even if you don't make a youtube video..tell that person, that family member or good friend thank you and that you love them because it would be a shame not to put a smile on someones face.

In my spare time..I'm awesome

Guess which blogger started school this week? me me me!
I already totally raised my hand and all..they are all like me I have been telling people..what does that mean?  For the most part we are all politically the same, want to help people, and probably want to someday have a private practice.  I had my note book and a "Let's Go Exploring" Dora the Explorer backpack..this rules!

The Will to Make a Will

The trouble with being young is the feeling of being invincible.  Two young people, prime of their lives and it's going to be fine forever..you push the other one's wheel chair with you cane while you try to wheel your own chair.  All this while enjoying the very beautiful view in the retirement village of your choice (in Hawaii let's say for fun).  What no one likes to tell you is to be prepared for death.  Of course you talk about it kind of like the way Billy Crystal talked about death in "When Harry Met Sally".  He thinks about it a lot, thinks he is a morbid wacko and she basically looks at him with confirmation that he is nuts.  I think about death a lot. Well, I have been thinking about death a lot today for the obvious reasons, N and I will be attending a wake for a wonderful lady whose life was cut short by what I like to call the pain the ass, never liked you, hate you, suck it..cancer word.  That's right.  This blog entry is all about my fear that one day someone will be writing in their blog about ME and going to my funeral.  Who is going to get my Depression glass?  Who would want my less than Marc Jacobs shoe collection?  How much does a will cost?  Well..All of this has depressed me so get out your tissues because I might cry.  It's ok, I can come home and look at my shoes.   Right?

Blogging Your Apologies

It may seem like a simple task..putting up a house sign and making sure that all things are even, nice, and that people can see it as they drive by...it's not..you have to crook your head to the side..squint, re-do it a few times, call your significant other out to make sure they like it and ask for their opinion.  The problem is..when one doesn't think it's "that big of a deal".  Yes..I was the one and I got mad at a slight crack in our siding and might (did) get a bit huffy and puffy about the crack.  The way I figured, the house would fall apart, the neighbors would laugh..at the end of the day..it came out great and he did a great job. I hope he knows this..

Champagne Taste, Beer Budget

Maybe I am being too hard on us but I have to tell you that it is very hard to be "getting by".  It could be worse, we could have started out really rich like some people that I know and ended up scraping by and wishing they at least had a tiny cushion.  Let me back up, before N, I used to spend like it was going out of style, memorized my mom's credit card numbers like I was Paris Hilton, and just simply did what I wanted. Now. ha. Since I have been with N, I have graduated college, gotten a real job which at first seems great "i can shop more!!!"..Right..
I have to say, he told me that I have gotten a lot better at saving, skipping the non important things but not gonna lie, one day I am going to drag him into..dare I say it..Banana Republic and like an ex addict..buy the crap out of the store and love every second of it..and for my sister in law, yes..you may smell the clothes after I buy them.

Marriage: The New Teachers

When you have been married for about 5 minutes, some people ask you how was the wedding, some ask when you will have a baby and then there are the few that ask for ADVICE. From us. Newlyweds.  We have had already about 6 people ask us about getting married.  It ranges from "how much did you wedding cost" (they are trying to budget) to what do we do on the wedding day? That one question looked like an anxious groom.  You have to feel for those in the latter category.  N and I were talking about it and it feels weird to have advice come from our own mouths, I mean just a second ago I was googling wedding stuff and now I am giving game plans to engaged couples.  I think our best advice was given just this past Friday to a guy when we said to expect not to talk to one another through the wedding..you will be talked TO. by everyone..and we mean everyone. 

There's No CRYING in Target

So. ..my darling darling man friend (hubby to those who like the phrase) made me tear up in Target.  He found a card for my little cousin who is about to embark on a big journey: boot camp.  This little guy should be on stage Broadway style but for the few who get to..they now have a few years of winning Tony Awards left until he is back in the spotlight.  Anyhoo...Nick found this card that just shocked me. I mean he likes to pick out goofy cards, ones you laugh at and bring to your friends and say that he is such a comic. eye roll.  He found this patriotic card for Andrew that explained all these feelings of love and homesick.  It meant so much.
Now if you excuse me..I am tearing up...

Power Tools Are Your Friends

but stay away from lighters!  People, let me tell you the story of our "busy" sunday..starts off calm as usual, then this stupid fly comes and has to ruin calm coffee time. He gets out one of those lighters that are really long for like a bbq or something and as the fly is ON THE WINDOW with the custom wooden shades mind you..he wants to light it up and get rid of it..be still my heart..I thought we would have no house. Well..no fly either.  Little while later he bought he an electric hedge clipper. My new friend. Is that sad or what??

He Always Had Faith In Me

Today I was accepted to Adelphi University for grad school..I honestly knew I was going to get in but a little bit of me was scared that the school was going to have other people that were matyrs applying.  Well..today was the today my letter came...when he came to talk to me, he put his arms around me and he said that he always had faith in me.  I knew he thought that but to hear those words were like tiny hugs ..

Question

Does your husband love to grill? Or wife???

Does THIS look my yard??

So, I had the brilliant idea of freshening up our front yard. Get away some of the mountains of weeds, spruce it up a bit. It is hot as hell and all I want it my house to look like this picture. I have to stop posting pictures of Hawaii because let's face it, you will never be able to stick a bird of paradise plant along the walk way. on long island. in march. So for now, I am in the air conditioning with dirt still under my nails and the husband laughing at me for trying to be tough in this heat with my fake D & G glasses on. Oh and for the record...I lasted a whole 15 mintues!

I didn't run away from the altar

Not even kidding you, I secretly had a fear that I would have one of those runaway bride moments. There I went, running down the aisle at the church that my parent's had gotten married in (divorce bells are ringing)..running towards something else. Question is..what? As I stood off to the side with my uncle waiting to walk down the aisle I was more mad that the music was not was I remembered than scared. I actually asked the limo driver who would tell me when to walk "did I pick this song?" The poor bastard looked at me and said "you did now honey". My uncle then took my arm as I smiled for the cameras and told my little cousin, Rachel, not to cry as I walked towards Nick, my now husband. I gotta say, giggling like a school girl was way better than crying. At least for me. I don't mean to offend anyone if I sound harsh about crying. Oh yeah, I also remember thinking that my bra was way too freaking tight.